I don’t know how many times I have come across the small town girl story line. She’ll come to the big city and learn new things and change into some more confident woman or sometimes not. I have to say that if and when I come across a story line like this, I always expect the young girl to end up the way I have always seen her fellow small town girls. I know… I’m human.
Every growing human starts off as a small town girl/boy. You grow up with so much innocence and gradually, you are introduced to the big city. The small town is safe, it’s caring, it’s comfortable and it definitely will not judge you. The small town is your happy place and then growing up begins, you are supposed to go to college or maybe just go into the real world – the big city. It is such a scary place. Hearing about the big city is always golden and shiny and all sorts of enticing. You hear about how much fun it is, you hear about how much more opportunities you’ll have out there and I don’t think any soul wouldn’t want a shiny life.
The thing is almost everything shines from far away, it’s all glossy until you get closer and you realize how different it might turn out to be. The party always seems like more fun until you get there and discover it’s probably just loud music and a bunch of intoxicated people screaming at the top of their voices. It’s always rosy until you get into it.
It’s good to get out of the small town. We all should get out of the small town and your small town might be different but GET OUT OF IT. I’m not saying the big city is just going to love you immediately because trust me, in most cases, it will certainly not. We should be patient and try to ease into the big city. Don’t try to take it all at once. It won’t work that way. Calm down and don’t try to live the glossy and shiny life just yet. Ease into it. Relax, take deep breaths, learn to be patient and before you know it, you’ll be riding back to the small town a much better and confident person.
Oh! and one more thing, never forget your small town. I’ve read and seen cases where people just forget about their small towns. They turn their faces like it never existed. Never forget your beginnings and never forget to appreciate. Learn from your humble beginnings.
My point is that this is what they want you to think. You see a story line and you immediately try to tell the end from the beginning. Your brain and your mind are so used to processing the same story that you automatically judge the book by it’s cover even before the story begins. Even the closest family members and/or friends might not see the point in going to the big city. They might not understand why you want to leave your comfort zone. Some will tell you they see havoc and a sad ending. They’re human. You can’t really blame them for trying to protect you, Can you? They are doing what they believe is best for you. All you have to do is trust your future.
TRUST YOUR BIG CITY!